What do you do as a trauma recovery coach?
As a trauma recovery coach, I work with you as a peer, mentor, guide, and educator to help you either begin your journey of healing or maintain your recovery. For those beginning their journey, I help you understand how trauma shapes your life but more importantly, how you can move from where you are today to where you want to be in your relationships, goals and aspirations. A lot of this is done by raising your awareness and helping you develop coping skills.
For example: I once worked with a client who, as she shared about her interactions with her husband, I noticed signs and symptoms of fear of abandonment issues. To address this, first I raised her awareness of what is fear of abandonment, what causes it, how it shows up in our romantic relationships and in our behavior. As we looked at that information, her response was, "That is exactly me. That is exactly what I do." Then, we looked at how she could change her patterns of behavior going forward with her husband. Remember, most of my work is moving you from where you are (the present) to where you want to be (future) in your relationships, goals, and aspirations. She said gaining that awareness was very empowering. She then could change her behavior with her husband going forward. This is most of what my work as a trauma recovery coach is all about: raising your awareness to begin your journey of healing and helping you develop coping skills to maintain your recovery.
What is the difference between Coaching to Therapy?
Coaching is focused on moving you from where you are now to where you want to be in your relationships, goals and aspirations. This is done mainly through raising awareness and teaching skills. Therapy is focused on past to present. A therapist helps you delve into past childhood trauma. A therapist offers you a safe place to tell your story of what happened to you and space to grieve your losses and process your pain. There are times when a potential client comes to me but because their trauma is so raw, what they really need is a trauma therapist. In those situations, I refer them to a trauma therapist first.
Do you prescribe medication?
No, I do not prescribe medication. As a coach, I am not a clinician or psychiatrist. I cannot prescribe medication or make a diagnosis. What I am able to do-- because of my extensive real-life experience and knowledge--is to spot the signs and symptoms of many mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, fear of abandonment issues, codependency, cognitive distortions (unhelpful thinking patterns). With that information, I am trained to then educate clients on these issues, raise their awareness, and teach coping skills. In cases where I see clients or potential clients whose signs and symptoms are moderate to severe, I refer them to a trauma therapist or psychiatrist for an evaluation.
What are your qualifications?
I have extensive real-life and professional experience. In real life, I am a trauma survivor myself and in long-term recovery. I have been on my journey of healing and working on my recovery for 17 years. As a result, I have extensive experience with individual and group therapy, outpatient, and inpatient behavior health hospital programs, and 12-step programs like Celebrate Recovery and CoDa. Also, as a trauma survivor, I have faced many of the same problems you are facing in employment, family, and relationships. I have been where you are.
Professionally I am an educator and researcher. Early in my career, I was a middle and high school English teacher. Later I earned a Ph.D. in Curriculum and Instruction from UNC Charlotte. After my doctoral studies, I held a tenure-track Assistant Professor of Education appointment in The School of Education at Claflin University and USC Upstate.
As a trauma recovery coach, I combine my real-life personal experience with my professional work as an educator and researcher. I work with you as a peer, mentor, guide, and educator to help you move from where you are today (the present) to where you want to be (in the future) in your relationships, goals, and aspirations. I raise your awareness and teach you coping skills.
What can I expect from the free consultation?
First, it takes a lot of courage to book a consultation, so you are to be commended for your bravery. My goal in the consultation is to help you make a decision on what is your next best step. I want to help you decide whether you are going to move forward and really take new and decisive actions toward achieving your goals and changing your situation. To do that, I ask you several questions. There are no right or wrong answers. You just share from your heart. After that, I give you a chance to ask me questions. Then if we're a good fit and I feel I can help you, I tell you about my coaching packages. Simple as that. No obligations.
What did you do before you were a trauma recovery coach?
Before becoming a trauma recovery coach, I was a teacher and college professor. Early in my career I was a middle and high school English teacher. Later I earned a Ph.D. in Curriculum & Instruction from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. Afterwards, I held a tenure-track Assistant Professor of Education appointment in the School of Education at Claflin University and USC Upstate.
My research area of focus is improving education for teen moms, and as an extension of my research, combined with ministry, I founded Teen Moms Anonymous-- a support group and recovery program for teen moms who are trauma survivors.
I became a trauma recovery coach because after several years of trying to teach in the classroom and maintain my recovery, it became evident I had to change careers. I decided to use my teaching skills and do what I love: help people heal. So, in December 2020, while out on long-term disability leave from my teaching position, I started Pills and Skills Recovery LLC, my trauma recovery coaching service.
How Long Do Coaching Sessions Last?
Coaching sessions last 1 hour.
Are your coaching sessions online or in person?
Individual coaching sessions can be held online or in person.